Dear Mom,

I do not like her. She seems so cowardly and fragile. Her desire to keep secrets makes me feel uncomfortable. And she is generally weird.

Of course, I feel terrible because she is "family." But what can I do. I just cannot tolerate her for any length of time.

What is most difficult is that he is very much like her. So sensitive and afraid. So unable to power through a problem and find a solution without resorting to some strange drama.

Oh mom, I know that much of my reaction to her is something within myself that I can put aside... but the similarities between them drive me wild. How can I love him when I dislike her so much?

Just being nice will probably do. Now, if only I could figure out a way to avoid long visits with her.

I miss you mom and being able to talk through things like this with you.

Love, 

Nicole